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My Big Fat Life – Here We Go Again

In Uncategorized on December 1, 2013 at 11:02 am

One of the few things people know about me, is that I have to listen to R&B when I write. I have never been able to figure it out, but as I sit here I have Toni Braxton blaring into my ears. I have to say she makes me feel I have my groove this morning, and I can tackle just about anything. Perhaps that is the connection.

Gabriel is sick again.

 

He was off the steroids and seemed to do really well for a couple of weeks, and then he started getting sick again. I knew the signs, and as soon as I saw them I took him back to the cardiologist. Long story short, he was dismissive and told me that Gabriel probably just had muscle cramps. I had seen this four times already in Gabriel. He starts to hurt, and within 3 days he starts to run a fever. We saw the doctor on the third day in, and later that evening the fevers started. Finally his pediatrician ordered blood work and sure enough his lab results showed he had high numbers indicating inflammation. I would not give up taking him in to be seen until someone listened to me. I find it really annoying when you are a parent, and you are dismissed when it comes to your children. We are the parents, we know out children. I also know Gabriel never felt like this until he had the surgery. I have no idea why, but every time he starts to get sick now, he gets this pain in his right shoulder blade. Before you know it, it moves around and the fevers start. Soo when the cardiologist told me that it was just muscle cramping (and I didn’t know what I was talking about) that just made me push that much harder. In defense of Gabriels cardiologist, it wasn’t his typical doctor. He was on holiday, and so this was a doctor that was filling in. 

The pediatrician put Gabriel back on a high does of steroids, and by the next day my son was up and dancing around in the kitchen. It was nice to see him feeling better. When his cardiologist came back from holiday, we went in to see him and talk about a game plan here. Gabriel can’t live on steroids the rest of his life, and so I wanted some answers. He decided that adding the care of a rheummetoligist might help, since they deal with inflammation of the heart sac, which is where everyone seems to think this is where the inflammation is taking place.

We were so late for our appointment. I was trying to get out the door and the key broke off in the lock on the way out the door. Then finally on the road we were stuck in traffic 4 lanes wide, and backed up for over an hour. By the time we got there, we were already so late. Before we left, the dog sneezed on my tea. It was probably a dog curse.

The doctor was really nice in a quirky sorta way. I saw the potential for the God complex that I have over the years when working with specialists, but he seemed genuinely interested in wanting to help as much as he could. It wasn’t so reassuring when he told me that he had only seen one other child post op who presented with heart inflammation, and that child responded first treatment. We are Gabriels 4th. He told me that all the people he sees with heart sac inflammation are not post op, so not related to a surgical procedure, and some of those people have to have the sac removed from their heart in order to make it stop. I already knew that was a resolution for some of the cases, but I have been really keeping that to myself. I still don’t like speaking that out loud, because I refuse to even go there in my mind yet.

So we left with yet another round of extensive steroid treatment. On Friday I spoke with the cardiologist again and he told me that Gabriel is stubborn in healing, and he is hoping that another treatment, with a very slow taper, will give more time for his heart to heal from the surgery and hopefully by the time he is off of it, he will be just fine. He said healing in total really takes up to 6 months. I asked him about what the other doctor said, and I talked about my concerns that maybe the inflammation could be from somewhere else in his body, related to the surgery. I asked him at what point we could have a cat scan and heck things out. He told me that if Gabriel doesn’t respond to treatment this time, that he will do a cat scan. While right now we have no answers, and I am riding this wave of emotional of worry, I feel good that we have a plan. The cardiologist also assured me that they will now listen to me next time, and when I come in knowing my son is ill, they will be sure to not be so quick to dismiss it. This is a good thing, because watching my son in pain until they decide to take action, is just wrenching.

Gabriel is starting to feel weary from the constant ups and downs of feeling like shit. He told me the other day that he feels like he missed out on his whole summer and having fun. I feel awful for him, because I know he is right, he has. He wants to go have fun so badly, all of the boys do. I try to think of things we can do, but I also have to be careful not to take Gabriel into some major crowded areas where everyone and their dog are coughing. I really feel for the kid. He needs to have some serious fun. I’ve got to some up with ideas.

In other news, I filed a complaint with the Department of Education in regards to removing my other sons aide from his IEP. You would think this IEP team has better things to do, than try and bully a Mom who has other things going on, but I am starting to feel like they are taking advantage of fact that I have my head wrapped around other things at the time. Which, I must admit, just pisses me off more. When I am stressed out, or I am faced with something, I tend to fight that much harder to push through it all. Defeat is not in my vocabulary. If things don’t work the way I believe, then I simply feel that maybe that is divine intervention leading me another way for whatever reason, but I do not back down to advocating for those I love and doing what I believe is right.

That all being said, I must also confess I would seriously love a hug right now. Less telling me how strong I am, and more hugs are absolutely in order. I could go on some wave of how difficult this can be at times, but I am pretty sure you have figured that out already.

Someday I will wear mascara again. I believe this.

 

 

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